Professionals helping people recover and thrive
Life is a process of ups and downs and during these down phases everything seems too much to cope with. Our professional therapists are highly skilled and experienced in assisting and supporting you during these difficult, and often challenging times.
Living in a close relationship with another person can be an experience of comfort, support, compassion, and companionship, and at times the experience can be one of distress, frustration and even despair. Close relationships go through different phases of development and growth, just as the individuals in the relationship.
When problems in our relationship occur, it can be because of each individual person having trouble within in their own lives. These could be our own level of tiredness, our skills in communicating, problem solving, managing stress, and our ability to deal with outside pressures, such as work, financial concerns, and family expectations.
Individual problems can place stress on our relationships, due to our needs not being met, which can be due to dysfunctional patterns of communication we have learnt over our lifetime. These dysfunctional interactions can include our inability to communicate effectively, unable to support our partner, problematic problem solving skills and lack of quality time.
In counselling, we can identify poor communication, either the way we communicate, or not communicate with each other. We can examine the common problems in communicating patterns/styles, and how this could impact our problem-solving abilities.
When one person is demanding, intrusive, and the other person withdraws or refuses to communicate.
Using emotions in a negative way
When a person uses emotions, such as anger and sadness, to manipulate the other person. This can have a negative outcome on communication, yet, we do understand manipulation is a way to get our needs met.
When we use general terms about our partner such as lazy, stupid, annoying, to describe him/her instead of describing the behavior we do not like.
When we do not use receptive body language and verbal feedback to show our partner concern and understanding. This can be due to competing demands from children, television, or other demands.
Effective communication is the lifeblood of our relationships. In counselling, we can have the opportunity to identify our barriers to communication, and our fears to risk communicating our true feelings with each other.