Understanding anger

Professionals helping people recover and thrive

Life is a process of ups and downs and during these down phases everything seems too much to cope with. Our professional therapists are highly skilled and experienced in assisting and supporting you during these difficult, and often challenging times.

Our emotions are important as they are bring us information about the nature of our relationships, and our environment. For example sadness is about loss, fear is about threat, and anger is often about unfairness, feeling powerless and hurt. When we resist our anger it can build up, become volatile and can cause much damage to others and ourselves.

It is vital for us to listen to our anger, rather than avoiding the experience. It could be that our boundaries have been invaded, our rights may have been violated, or our wants and needs have not been met. Anger can help us say “enough” and motivate us to say “no”.

We may need to pay attention to unresolved anger from our past, as it often signifies unfinished business with a significant other/s in our lives. This experience of anger could continue into our present lives and prevent us from developing loving relationships.

It is extremely important for us to understand our anger, and learn to express it in a constructive way. Feeling angry must not be confused with aggression, which include attacking or assaultive behavior, and is NEVER okay.

Another experience of anger is resentment, which is experienced as a long-standing, simmering anger, and very destructive to the body. Sometimes we hold on to our resentment, rather than taking responsibility for our hurt, and doing something about it. If we choose to believe that someone else is the source of our hurt, then we remain victims. Resentment is the cause of many illnesses and diseases.

Learning skills to recognize and manage our emotional experiences, provides us with the ability to respond in a positive, constructive way, rather than become reactive in a negative and destructive way. In turn we communicate more effectively with others, manage daily stress more appropriately, overcome challenges, defuse conflict and increase our ability to empathize with others and ourselves.